This month I want to tackle the issue of decision making again, but from a different angle:
RIGHT or WRONG.
Why do I believe that decision-making matters in your life?
Because we make thousands of them every day.
Because personal choice is one of the biggest freedoms we enjoy as human beings.
Hence, decision making factors greatly in your health, development and success in life.
One of the major conclusions from five years of accompanying people on their individual journeys through attention training and bodywork is that decision-making is a life skill that we all have, but we often do not use consciously and not in relevant situations.
I argue that right or wrong doesn’t matter. Why is it not important, you might wonder? Because right and wrong is not in the body’s vocabulary. That’s the simple answer.
Life can be complicated and complex. Still, for your body the answer is simple. (Not to be confused with easy.)
The body speaks in LIKE and DON’T LIKE
The like and don’t like categories were invented long before Facebook. It you are aware of your body, you know the answer. Acting according to it is the difficult part. You might confront someone, and disappoint others.
If you insist on using the word wrong, what are wrong decisions?
- The decisions you never make.
- The decisions you make halfheartedly.
- The decisions you make with excuses and/or blaming.
- The decisions you don’t take responsibility for.
- The decisions you pass on to someone else.
The right and wrong dilemma appears mostly in two kinds of situations:
- In discussions or disputes with other people.
- In your self-talk when you start doubting yourself.
In both cases the solution rests in the body. You know your answer, your choice. Resolving the contradictions, stopping the battle of mind vs gut feeling will lead you to the best solution you can make in that particular moment. No guarantee it will be right the next time around.
YOU CANNOT MAKE A RIGHT OR WRONG DECISION. YOU CAN MAKE ONE OR NOT. THAT’S IT.
I don’t want to convince you that I’m right. ;-). This post is rather an invitation to you to start observing and experimenting with this topic in your own life. Ultimately, it’s always up to our own individual experience.